October 2013

* true lies

"No fine clothes can hide the clown."
(French Proverb)

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For the "Clown," humor is the perfect defense mechanism. It's a means of coping, usually due to a traumatic or difficult childhood. Therefore, the "Clown" often acts out by resorting to sarcasm in moments of personal duress and insecurity. This "Impostor" ends up keeping everyone at arm's length, eschewing any possible bonds that could help.

It's not uncommon to hear of a comedian's difficult childhood. Much has been written about comedians like George Lopez, Robin Williams, and Jim Carrey, who use humor as a way to deal with hurtful or lonely childhoods. It seems that the more they poke fun of themselves, the more others laugh, which makes the "Clown" feel accepted on some level. But no matter how much success or acceptance the "Clown" ultimately achieves, it usually fails to help the "Impostor" reconcile with its personal struggles and inner demons. When humor becomes the "Clown's" primary function and go-to reaction, thinly-veiled insecurity and pain manifest as sarcasm and further estranges the "Clown's" friends and family as they become unwitting targets of the "Impostor's" discontent.

The "Clown's" reliance on humor can quickly become natural, and become uncontrollable. Subsequently, situations that call for sensitivity and maturity will often feel out of a "Clown's" depth. Those who wish to depend on the "Clown" will find themselves avoiding the "Clown" when they encounter difficulty. This precludes the "Clown" from establishing lasting relationships, effectively relegating the "Impostor" into the category of the funny friend, or at its worst, the asshole friend.








The Permanent misfits are those who because of a lack of talent or some irreparable defect in body or mind cannot do the one thing for which their whole being craves. No acheivement, however spectacular, in other fields can give them a sense of fulfillment. Whatever they undertake becomes passionate pursuit; but they never arrive, never pause. They demonstrate the fact that we can never have enough of that which we really do not want, and that we run fastest and farthest when we run from ourselves.

By renouncing individual will, judgement and ambition, and dedicating all their powers to the service of an eternal cause, they are at last lifted off the endless treadmill which can never lead them to fulfillment.
(Eric Hoffer, the True Believer)

Malice

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"If malice or envy were tangible and had a shape, it would be the shape of a boomerang."
(Charley Reese)



"There is probably an element of malice in our readiness to overestimate people - we are, as it were, laying up for ourselves the pleasure of later cutting them down to size."
(Eric Hoffer)

"There are sadistic scientists who hurry to hunt down errors instead of establishing the truth."
(Marie Currie)



"Fear is a vile thing, and is at the bottom of almost every wrong and hatred of the world."
(L.M. Montgomery, Emily Climbs)







- Often, the "Clown Impostor" stems from someone who didn't feel seen or heard as a child.

- The "Clown" will try to make light of things to get attention.

- "Clowns" are often scared of disappointment, avoid deep intimacy, and crave approval.

- Because of their light-hearted approach to life, they usually don't give proper maturity to discussions that demand maturity.

- Their primary focus is being liked rather than being real.

(Lisa Haisha)

Compassion

"There is a rollicking kindness that looks like malice."
(Nietzsche)



"To belittle, you have to be little."



"The smallest act of kindness is worth more than the greatest intention."



"Tenderness and kindness are not signs of weakness and despair, but manifestations of strength and resolution."



"For as long as man continues to be the ruthless destroyer of lower living beings, he will never know health or peace. For as long as men massacre animals, they will kill each other. Indeed, he who sows the seeds of murder and pain cannot reap joy and love."
(Pythagoras)



"Nothing is so strong as gentleness. Nothing is so gentle as real strength."
(Ralph W. Sockman)



"I learned that it is the weak who are cruel, and that gentleness is to be expected only from the strong."
(Leo Rosten)



"When lenity and cruelty play for a kingdom, the gentler gamester is the soonest winner."
(Shakespeare)



"If a violent person wishes to attack us, let us send him a gentle phrase as this will defuse his violence."
(Samael Aun Weor)