Q: When The Velvet Underground split and you went back to work with your father, did you think your career was over?

[sarcastically] Part of the myth? Look, why should any of that shit be true? What was the question? I've lied so much about the past I can't even tell myself what is true any more.

I would look down on a journalist whether he wanted to be in a band or not, just because of their occupation. It's just a game. Journalists ask if you look down on journalists and they're baiting you. They want you to say yes, of course.

I think in an interview what they essentially want to know is how big is your dick. Everything else is superfluous. It's like, "Just tell us that, now."

(Lou Reed, UNCUT)

Because I felt inadequate and overly self-critical due to a past full of put-downs and personal failures (real or perceived), I needed proof that I mattered and was worthy in the eyes of people who represented the very individuals from my past who had shamed me, abused me, ignored me, and devalued me.

Growing up, I was always the outlier and in a lot of ways I still am—the girl with the wild imagination and unpopular hobbies (art over sports, unique tastes over trends, time alone in introspection over socializing).

I was also the middle child who didn't quite measure up to the overachieving big sister and gifted little brother-often ignored, humored, my "little" achievements dismissed.

By Katherine Reseburg


Psychological boundaries are defined as more than a measure of introversion or extroversion, openness or close-mindedness, agreeableness or hostility, and other personality traits. According to them, boundaries are a way to assess the characteristic way a person views her/himself and the way he or she operates in the world. To what extent are stimuli "let in" or "kept out"?

How are a person's feelings processed internally? Boundaries are a fresh and unique way of evaluating how we function.

For example, thin boundary people are highly sensitive in a variety of ways and from an early age:

In a nutshell, highly thin boundary people are like walking antennae, whose entire bodies and brains seem primed to notice what's going on in their environment and internalize it. The chronic illnesses (including depression) they develop will reflect this "hyper" style of feeling.

Thin skinned people are more transparent and therefore absorb more into the gray matter of our brain than our thicker-skinned counterpoints.

Thick boundary people, on the other hand, are fairly described as stolid, rigid, implacable or thick skinned:

They tend to brush aside emotional upset in favor of simply “handling” the situation and maintaining a calm demeanor. In practice, they suppress or deny strong feelings. They may experience an ongoing sense of ennui, of emptiness and detachment. Experiments show, however, that thick boundary people don’t actually feel their feelings any less. Bodily indicators (e.g., heart rate, blood pressure, blood flow, hand temperature, muscle tension) betray their considerable agitation despite surface claims of being unruffled.

THERESE J. BORCHARD, Are You Thin or Thick Skinned? Knowing Your Emotional Type