Stefan Molyneaux on Robin Williams

When asked by ladies home journal in 87 what the hardest part of his life was, Robin Williams said: "I was small, overweight, slow and pasty white. I remember in sixth grade being called Leprechaun and Dwarf. I would go home crying. Mom and Dad had put me in a public school. Kids that were bigger than me wanted to prove they were bigger than me and they would do it by throwing me into walls.

Bullying is an attack upon the runts of the litter - the weak of the species, and it is predicated on a lack of bond with the parents. If a child has a secure bond with the parents, that forms a forcefield around the child in terms of bullying. If the child does not have a strong bond with the parents, then it's like being separated from the herd - those are the ones who get picked off by the human predators in childhood and adulthood. So keep your contacts as close as you can, they provide an amazing shield against bullies and users.

Later in life, Robin found out he could make people laugh. And if he could make them laugh, then they would not attack him. So I started telling jokes as a way of not having the shit kicked out of me.

Now, Robin had years of practice making people laugh because the Me+ for Robin and his mother was "Mommy will pay attention to me if it's me + jokes." And there is something incredibly and fundamentally humiliating about that. To be a performing monkey for your own mother, for her to pay attention to you, is a wretched and vicious experience to have in perpetuity.

Drug use develops as a way to self medicate a brain that has developed dysfunctionally through the absence of parental attachment, and therefore, you end up having to substitute the substances that should be natural with external supports for those missing substances. And so, when you first take these drugs you realize you had something missing your whole life. Drugs have a way of making unhappy people feel normal for the first time in their life, and then they crash back down when the drugs where off.

Me + starts young and it plagued him his whole life.

How am I providing value to others? Me +. Me + clown makeup. Me + jokes. And this is a very important thing to avoid. There is no external solution to the problem of insecurity. It must be tackled within. Robin Williams grew up lonely, and then turned to jokes, as a way of providing value to others. He did not develop his social skills. And if you are a celebrity, then you meet crazy amounts of people. As a celebrity you might meet ten thousand people per year. The average person meets about a thousand people in his entire life. And if you don't have social skills as a celebrity, it's very anxiety provoking. Without social skills, being a celebrity is pretty horrendous.

One-on-One Robin Williams have no social skills. He couldn't handle it. I knew this man for 35 years and yet it was like I was in an elevator with a stranger.

And so Robin Williams comes to life with an audience. Now, if you deprive someone like that of an audience, then the underlying depression and anger is going to erupt.

He was someone who tragically defines his life by the value that other people see in him. The Me +.

Another pattern with Robin Williams is that he dates women who are around, such as the maid who cleans his house. This is not a very discriminating or discerning placing of the penis.

In a two year period, he made 8 movies. There was eventually a joke going around about Robin Williams that there was a movie coming out where he was not in it. He was that prolific and hard working. You better keep working otherwise people will forget. The audience remains his mother. My mother will not pay attention to me if I'm not entertaining her. The audience will forget me if I'm not entertaining the audience.

Now what is so bad if the audience forgets you? You still have your close friends, your loves, your family, your hobbies, your thoughts, your emotions. Well, if you don't have those things because you are focused on on Me +, and because your identity and existence is predicating on pleasing others. Well, when those others go away - that false self, goes away as well.

Fearfulness of everything, a generalized anxiety. It hurts so much. The use of alcohol to self medicate anxiety is very common and very tragic, and of course, it doesn't work. But it's very tempting. Because the alternative is to question your primary relationships. And that's really hard for people.

I would guess that Robin didn't know how to interact with people without being "on." Being "On" is exhausting for a long period of time.

I strive, when in social situations, to not be on. To be connected, to listen, but to not be a performer, and instead, to give people the connection and solidity that they crave. Without being a Me+. Because if I'm not a Me+, then they don't feel like they need to be a Me+.

What a comedian is saying is that the value here is Me + jokes. Nobody is there for each other. They are there for financial and emotional reasons that don't have anything to do with genuine human connection.

He's desperate to make a connection to his mother as a child, but the only way he can do it is by making jokes. And then not talking is very stressful for him. His mother is going to drift away, he's going to have no connections, he's going to go back to his horrible life of imaginary friends.

If you are an Alpha male, and Robin Williams was an alpha of course, Rich, famous, and quite a good looking guy, and you are targetted by hypergamous women, by women who want to trade up, to get the security of a rich man's sexual attention or child.

I think the more you understand yourself - what you do and why you do it, this frees you up to do other things and to be other people.

Be other people?

I don't think the point of self knowledge is to be other people. But to be authentically who you are - your original self. Which is angry and hurt at neglect and trauma as a child.

If he was asked whether or not he had any regrets, he said, "no regrets don't help."

That's very compressed, there is only three words there. "regrets don't help."

What that means is he has regrets, but he is repressing them as being unhelpful. Now I think it is important to have regrets, because to not have regrets is to not have empathy. We've all made mistakes and have hurt other people. Which many of us regret, which I have regret. And to have regrets is important.

Robin Williams once said, instead of getting married again, I'm going to find a woman I don't like and just give her my house. One of the reasons he was such a work a holic was because he had to pay for his ex-wives. This is absolutely staggering stuff.

I would watch my own mother make lists of stuff for her ex husband to buy her. She relied on that money-bomb that would fall out of my fathers nut sack every month. And If you are holding a winning lottery ticket, you aren't getting your own life going.

Children really are not that expensive. Children will cost, maximum, $500 bucks more per month. But this alimony stuff - it is wretched. I think it's so destructive to women and to men. The man had to work because he had these vampiric estrogen based parasites hanging off his wallet. Who considered themselves entitled to all the money from his wallet. His workaholism, his genius, his gifts Why? Because they had sex with him. If they had been female friends who hadn't had sex? They would be entitled to nothing. Women who are pursuing alimony turn marriage into a whore house. I want to be paid now for having sex with you in the past.

If you are a wife, you have a job called, being a wife. If a man divorces you, you lost your job. You don't get paid. And if you quit, you don't get paid either. Marriage is a job, you are getting paid for being a wife. No longer wifey? No longer paid. But this alimony stuff is vote buying bullshit that politicians do to sell to women. It also why women, with kids, can breakup a marriage and not have the children get as upset, because it's not a drop in living standards.

Keep them in the style they are accustomed to? Bullshit. The man is accustomed to having a clean house, cooked food and sex. He's not getting any of that anymore. So why is the woman getting the money?

The two divorces didn't quite take all his money. They were going to call it all-the-money, but they changed it to alimony.

It's ripping your heart out through your wallet. If a woman divorces you and takes you for 10 million dollars. She is basically saying, I hated being married to you to the tune of 10 million dollars.

Women's inability to resist free stuff offered to them is equivalent to men's challenges resisting the sexual advances of fertile women. Men are primed to have sex with fertile women. And women are primed to get stuff from men as resources to raise their children.

When a man cheats, he's a jerk - he's breaking his vows, he's a bad guy.

Ladies, if you go after your husband after you've quit your job as wife or girlfriend, you are equally horrendous. You are destroying his heart. You are taking his money, you are stealing from his labour. Don't expect to get paid when you quit your job. Stop taking free shit. It's destroying marriage, and anybody who does this is a gold digger for money and a gravedigger of her husbands heart.

Robin Williams died of an addiction. To women's addiction to free stuff. Single Mom's is the foundation of the welfare state - free stuff. It is horrendous that women's desire for free stuff is not recognized as a problem. Nobody is talking about the fact that this 62 year old exhausted man who had heart surgery a few years prior, who is working himself to death to pay the bills. To pay the outrageous alimony settlements that the american justice system heaps upon undeserving women.

Marry a rich guy? Great, good for you sister. But don't take his god damn money when you leave. You didn't work for it, you didn't earn it. Sex is not work. Unless it is something short term, agreed upon, ahead of time.

The addiction that women have of stripping the flesh from the bones of their husbands finances, that is the addiction that kills so many men. Post-divorce suicides among men are very high.

This exhausted, broken man, Robin Williams, was facing a future where he probably could not pay his alimony payments. He could not continue to pump money into his vampiric ex wives. Like John Cleese, like Scott Foley, like so many other men, he then has to go on the road - at 62 years old. Exhausting, lonely, isolating and addict provoking. He is more likely to drink when he's on the road.

Men are just disposable work horses. Go work. Get the bitch some money. Give me the money! That's all they have - their sex. And this poor man, had to go back on the road, or he would face prison.

In some places in Europe you don't get Alimony. You can get a couple hundred bucks a month for child support. But none of this "keep the women and children in the style they've been accustomed to" - that's complete bullshit. Robin Williams died from addiction. But not his own addiction. He died from women's addiction to free stuff. Which is not free, but paid for, with the life of the work horse. Mel Gibson's divorce cost him 425 million dollars. Paul McCartney with Heather Mills - what was that 80-90 million dollars. Are we insane? What is this patriarchy that everyone is talking about? People are being worked to death. Men are going to prison because they are unable to feed the insatiable more of their ex wifes grasping vacuumed pussy hypergamy.

There is tragedy in comedy. It is important, when talking to people who are funny, to really connect with them on a human level, and ask them to put that aside. We should reject constant joke telling from those around us, because we need to get to the underlying insecurity - and the connection.

Celebrities are in many ways closer to us than our friends and family. We see celebrities cry, we see them vulnerable, we see them laugh, we hear them talk about very important things, particularly comedians. We hear them talk about drug addiction, loneliness as a child, he talked about divorce and the pain - and other comedians like Joe Rogan talk about very personal and powerful things.

Most people get more connection from a comedian performing in a comedy club than they do from a hundred dinners with their supposedly close friends.

Watch the park scene from good will hunting. How many times do we hear somebody so clearly and so powerfully express themselves in that kind of way? How many times have you had that in your life? This is why when celebrities die it's so painful for us. Because it awakens in us the lack of connection with the people who should matter most to us, our parents, our spouses, are children.


runt: "An animal that is small or stunted as compared with others of its kind. The smallest or weakest of a litter, especially of pigs or puppies. A person who is small and contemptible: that runt causes most of the trouble at the meetings. An old or decayed tree stump. An old cow or ox. An ugly old woman; hag."

"Mrs. Doubtfire" tells the story of a divorced man who misses his children so desperately that he disguises himself as a middle-aged British nanny in order to be near them. The man's ex-wife and three kids are all, of course, completely fooled by the deception, leading to great poignancy when the man hears himself discussed in what appears to be his absence.(Roger Ebert, on Mrs. Doubtfire)

"Cocaine is God's way of telling you you are making too much money."
(Robin Williams)

"[on his acting career]: All the new people you meet, it's pretty amazing. The vampire needs new blood. And there is still a lot to learn and there is always great stuff out there. Even mistakes can be wonderful."
(Robin Williams)

Australians are basically English rednecks. If Darwin had landed in Australia, he would have gone: "I'm wrong".
(Robin Williams)

"Men can't fake an orgasm, who wants to look that dumb, you know what I'm saying?"
(Robin Williams)

"I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel alone."
(Robin Williams)

"They're talking about partial nuclear disarmament, which is also like talking about partial circumcision - you either go all the way or forget it."
(Robin Williams)

"A man can be himself only so long as he is alone; and if he does not love solitude, he will not love freedom; for it is only when he is alone that he is really free."

"It is easier to be a lover than a husband, for the same reason that it is more difficult to be witty every day, than to say bright things from time to time." (Part I, Meditation V: Of the Predestined, aphorism LXIX)

[the nazi holocaust] had nothing to do with hate. They were so weak; they allowed everything to happen - to be done to them. They were people with whom there was no common ground, no possibility of communication - that is how contempt is born. I could never understand how they could just give in as they did. Quite recently I read a book about lemmings, who every five or six years just wander into the sea and die - that made me think of Treblinka.
(Franz Stangl)

"Harald Ofstand has suggested that a contempt for weakness is central to understanding Nazism, and Stangl provides a clear example of this idea."
By Lars Fr. H. Svendsen, A Philosophy of Evil.

"Wrongs are often forgiven, but contempt never is. Our pride remembers it forever. It implies a discovery of weakness, which we are more careful to conceal than a crime. Many a man will confess his crimes to a friend; but I never knew a man that would tell his silly weaknesses to his most intimate one."

"Sex: the pleasure is momentary, the position ridiculous, and the expense damnable."

"For my own part, I would rather be in company with a dead man than with an absent one; for if the dead man gives me no pleasure, at least he shows me no contempt; whereas the absent one, silently indeed, but very plainly, tells me that he does not think me worth his attention."

"Never seem more learned than the people you are with. Wear your learning like a pocket watch and keep it hidden. Do not pull it out to count the hours, but give the time when you are asked."
(Lord Chesterfield)

"Many young women who are gorgeous feel quite insulted when someone who they view as a beta, or even lower on the male heirarchy of attractiveness, approaches them. So he was reenacting the cruelty from his early life, reliving the humilation rather than deal with the original humilation."
(Stefan Molyneaux)

"Women love us for our defects. If we have enough of them, they will forgive us everything, even our intellects."
(Oscar Wilde)

"Only give a woman love, and there is nothing she will not venture, suffer, and do." (Wilkie Collins)

"Nothing is more damaging to you than to do something that you believe is wrong." (Abraham)

"Women are stronger than men, they do not die of wisdom." (Irish Proverb)

"True love is that which ennobles the personality, fortifies the heart, and sanctifies the existence."
(Henri Frederic Amiel)

"A horse with two masters is always skinny; the ship with two captains sinks." (Chinese Proverb)

"Create your future from your future, not from your past." (Werner Erhard)

"Women are stronger than men, they do not die of wisdom." (Irish Proverb)

"You can stand tall without standing on someone.
You can be a victor without having victims."
(Harriet Woods)

"What do we live for, if it is not to make life less difficult for each other?"
(George Eliot)

"We are surrounded by eternity and by the uniting of love."
(Giordano Bruno)