"Sooner or later there comes out this assertion. And assertion in our day takes the place of violence."
(Rollo May)


"Jealousy implies dissatisfaction with what you are and envy of others, does it not? To be discontented with what you are is the very beginning of envy. You want to be like somebody else who has more knowledge, or is more beautiful, or who has a bigger house, more power, a better position than you have. You want to be more virtuous, you want to know how to meditate better, you want to reach God, you want to be something different from what you are: therefore you are envious, jealous. To understand what you are is immensely difficult, because it requires complete freedom from all desire to change what you are into something else. The desire to change yourself breeds envy, jealousy; whereas, in the understanding of what you are, there is a transformation of what you are. But, you see, your whole education urges you to try to be different from what you are. When you are told: "Now, don't be jealous, it is a terrible thing." So you strive not to be jealous; but that very striving is part of jealousy, because you want to be different.

You know, a lovely rose is a lovely rose; but we human beings have been given the capacity to think, and we think wrongly. To know HOW to think requires a great deal of penetration, understanding, but to know WHAT to think is comparatively easy. Our present education consists in telling us WHAT to think, it does not teach us HOW to think, how to penetrate, explore; and it is only when the teacher as well as the student knows how to think that the school is worthy of its name."

(Krishnamurti, on Jealousy)


"Not to see many things, not to hear them, not let them approach one - first piece of ingenuity, first proof that one is no accident but a necessity. The customary word for this self defensive instinct is taste. Not seeing desirable things prevents confusion of the heart."

(An Instinct for Self Defense)

"To say No when Yes would be a piece of selflessness, but also to say No as little as possible. To depart from that to which No would be required again and again.

The rationale is that defense expenditures, be they never so small, lead to extraordinary impoverishment."

Our largest expenditures are our most frequent small ones. Warding off, not letting come close, is an expenditure. A strength squandered on negative objectives.

Merely through the constant need to ward off, one can become too weak any longer to defend oneself.
(Ecce Homo, Nietzsche)

"People think focus means saying yes to the thing you've got to focus on. But that's not what it means at all. It means saying no to the hundred other good ideas that there are. You have to pick carefully. I'm actually as proud of the things we haven't done as the things I have done. Innovation is saying no to 1,000 things."
(Steve Jobs)

The slave is anyone who has been captured by inner negative states. He appears to be treated kindly but only as long as he does not try to escape. When the slave started to dash away, all the surface kindness vanished and cruel swords took its place. Once you start to use NO for your escape you will see angry forces both inside and outside that don't want you to break their evil grip on your life. Simply expect this and realize that your spiritual weapon of NO is stronger than all the hostile forces in the universe!"

(Your Power To Say NO)


"Prosperity is the measure or touchstone of virtue, for it is less difficult to bear misfortune than to remain uncorrupted by pleasure."

"To be incapable of taking one's enemies, one's accidents, even one's misdeeds seriously for very long - that is the sign of strong full natures in whom there is an excess of power to form, to mold, to recuperate and to forget. Mirabeau had no memory for insults and vile actions done to him and was unable to forgive simply because he - forgot. Such a man shakes off with a single shrug the many vermin that eat deep into others."
(Friedrich Nietzsche)

"Without virtue, it is hard to bear the results of good fortune suitably. Those who lack virtue become arrogant and wantonly aggressive when they have these other goods. They think less of everyone else, and do whatever they please. They do this because they are imitating the magnanimous person though they are not really like him.”
(Aristotle on the Megalopsychos)

"The megalopsychos cannot let anyone else, except a friend, determine his life. For that would be slavish; and this is why all flatterers are servile and inferior people are flatterers."
(Aristotle on the Megalopsychos)

"He is not prone to remember evils, since it is proper to a magnanimous person not to nurse memories, especially not of evils, but to overlook them.

He does not speak evil even of his enemies, except when he responds to their wanton aggression.

He especially avoids laments or entreaties about necessities or small matters."

(Aristotle on the Megalopsychos)